Love in the face of rejection: When your teen pushes you away

Does your teen make a plan with you and then ditch you for her friends?

Does your teen say hurtful things to you?

Does your teen squirm away when you try to be physically affectionate?

Even the nicest teens say mean things.

True story: I remember looking at a photo of my Mom when she was a young woman wearing plaid bellbottoms, and I said, “Did you actually think you  looked GOOD back then?”   Ouch! Sorry Mom.

When you’re constantly looking for ways to connect with your teen and they’re finding ways to separate themselves from you, it can be exhausting. The rejection can quickly build up into resentment between you and your teen. You resent their attitude, and they resent feeling guilty for choosing their friends.

(By the way, they’re SUPPOSED to be separating themselves from you, this is part of how they gain their independence. AND, they’re not very delicate in how they handle other’s emotions, which is why you frequently feel the sting of rejection from your teen).

I know that even though it hurts, you LOVE your teen, and you’d do anything for them.

Then do this one thing for them: stop expecting your teen to fill your emotional needs.

Hear me out:

When our kids are little, it’s so easy to love them, because they love us back to easily with “I love you Mommy” and “You’re the best Mom ever!” and their spontaneous hugs. All of those moments fill us up, and we come to expect them from our kids.

But as our sweet elementary school kids become adolescents, they push us away, choose their friends first, and look at their phone and laugh at a text, then look up and scowl at us.

They used to make us feel loved and cherished and now they make us feel rejected and unwanted.

You know you can’t rely on your teen to meet your emotional needs. That’s not their responsibility (and expecting it just sets you up for heartbreak).

You might not have even realised that this is what’s been happening, and that’s ok!

Now that you know, you can make a different choice.

This is YOUR opportunity to re-calculate your relationship to LOVE.

This is YOUR opportunity to lean in to your own hurt and fill those wounds with love.

Why? Because when you know how to invite love into your life you’ll be loving your teen from the overflow. This is the only sustainable model for love. Wholehearted love. Not the kind that has hooks in it, the hooks of you needing them to say “I love you” back. But the kind of love that you can freely give them, even when they’re unkind and unresponsive, without expectation of them returning your affection. This is YOUR opportunity to show your teen how sustainable, healthy adult love FEELS.

When you know how to invite love into your own life, you’ll be able to teach your kids how to invite love into their own life. Having this skill will protect your teen from looking for love in unhealthy relationships, or unhealthy habits like disordered eating, smoking, drinking, drug use, and engaging in risky behaviour.

Who knew that pouring love into yourself would have such incredible protective benefits for your teen!

I know a savvy Mom of three teenagers who missed those sweet baby cuddles, so she volunteers once a week cuddling infants for families of multiples (twins or triplets)  who need an extra set of hands. What a wonderful way to get in some cuddles and also help another family!

Invite LOVE into your life. Invite LOVE into your body, mind, and spirit. This is not a selfish act, this is one of the BEST ways to show love to your teen.

 

I’ve used Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages as a framework to give you strategies that you can start using TODAY! If you’re most hurt by your teen’s mean comments, start by inviting love in with words of affirmation. If you’re hurt by your teen’s rejection when you want to spend time with them, invite love in by spending quality time with yourself.

Words of Affirmation: Speak lovingly to yourself!

  • Write yourself a love letter
  • Write a list of positive affirmations each day (for example: I am a powerful leader. I am a compassionate listener, etc.)
  • Create a scrapbook of your accomplishments
  • Have you saved old cards, or job references where others have said great things about you? Read them over! Make a scrapbook, or a beautiful box of good feels.

Acts of Service: Give AND receive

  • Volunteer with a cause that makes you feel really good about how you’re spending your time
  • Say yes the next time someone offers to help you (even if it’s something you COULD do yourself)
  • Implement a plan that will make one part of your life a little bit easier- order in once a week, get someone to pick up the dry cleaning, ask your partner to cook one meal a week

Receiving Gifts: YOU know what you really want!

  • Make yourself a love hamper- fill a pretty box with your favourite things: A scented candle, your favourite tea, a good book, a cozy pair of pj’s. Set a date for when you’ll enjoy a night to yourself.
  • Give yourself permission to replace one small thing in your home each month: worn out cookie sheets, new hand towels
  • Buy yourself flowers without needing an occasion
  • Order a new book online, and promise yourself that you’ll spend an hour reading it the day it arrives- make it a spontaneous party!

Quality Time: What really nourishes your soul?

  • Schedule in time each week doing something you love: meditating, singing in a choir, writing yourself a love letter, praying with others, creating something new
  • Sign up for a class- knitting, Zumba, yoga, painting
  • Schedule in a long-overdue get-together with friends. (Even if it’s a Skype call!)
  • See an energy healer

Physical Touch: Love your physical body! (Not just the surfaces, allow the love to sink all the way through to your core)

  • Book a massage
  • Lovingly apply body lotion as you give thanks for each part of your body
  • Give yourself a 10 second hug every morning
  • Give yourself a foot rub and give thanks for all the things you’re able to do because of your feet.

The important thing here is to get creative, and remember that YOU are inviting love into your life. Remember the airline safety message to “put on your own oxygen mask first”? When you invite love into your life, you’ll have MORE love to share with your family. If you’re giving to your family when yo’re half full you’ll feel depleted and resentful. The truth is, your family will FEEL the resentment and not your love.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Don’t read this as  “only love yourself”, just LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. When you are loving yourself, you are inviting God into your body, mind, and spirit. (If God isn’t the word you’re most comfortable with, invite in The Divine, collective consciousness, Source, Spirit, Life Force Energy, Chi). When you’re inviting love in, you’re inviting in your best self, your highest self, your God self, and you have access to all the resources that you need. This is sustainable living. This is wholehearted living. This is loving from a full cup.

Invite LOVE in.    Every day.

 

Coming up next… How to love your teen so they FEEL it.

Does your teen suffer from ANXIETY?

30% of children between the ages of  4-18 struggle with ANXIETY.

(That’s the number that psychologists know FOR SURE…it’s likely that even MORE students suffer from anxiety).

But here’s the thing: some teens are pretty good at covering up what they’re feeling, because they feel ashamed, or they’ve “always been that way”, and both the teens and their parents are wondering if it’s “just a normal part of being a teen”.

Does your teen:

  • Procrastinate
  • Have trouble sleeping
  • Want to stay home in their pj’s all day
  • Have stomach aches or headaches that keep them home from school
  • FIGHT every time you tell them it’s time to put away the Xbox or iPad?
  • Try to make deals with you to get out of going to school, or going to social events?
  • Seem “ok” for awhile, but then go through periods when these symptoms flare up?

Is it possible that your teen has anxiety?

Are you DRAINED from the constant negotiating it takes to get your teen out the door and involved?

Are you AFRAID of the way your teen is isolating herself and only connecting with people online?

There is HOPE!

Resilience is a set of skills that can be LEARNED.

ANXIETY doesn’t need to be the reason that your teen is at home all day missing out on their life.

ANXIETY doesn’t need to be the reason that you and your teen are CONSTANTLY fighting over their phone, the homework, their falling grades, or their lack of friends.

Trust me, your teen is as tired of all the fighting as YOU are. (Imagine how exhausting life must be for them!) They just want to feel good. Together, we can teach them HOW.

If you’re feeling worn out from all the negotiating and fighting because your teen challenges everything you say, then we need to connect!

CLICK HERE to book your FREE 30 minute call. You don’t need to live this way!

Video game DANGER for teens

Video games are fun, beautiful, challenging (at just the right level), compelling, and they give us INSTANT FEEDBACK. It’s no wonder they are so compelling (and so addictive). Video games are slick, sexy, and meet so many of our emotional needs (in the short term).

But for many teens, video games are their ADDICTION.  Just this past week, the World Health Organization declared video game addiction a new category of mental disorder, and teens are highly susceptible.

SO many teens today are feeling STUCK doing school, and like they’re in a holding cell until they get to the adult world (which can also terrify them because they’re not sure they have what it takes to handle the adult world). Video games fill SO many of the needs for worthiness, purpose, a clear role, clear boundaries, clear objectives, clear rewards, and connection to something bigger than themselves. Video games are also a great way to distract ourselves from negative feelings, or avoid things  we don’t’ want to do. It’s no wonder so many teens just LOVE video games.  But there are potential dangers…

Have you seen the movie trailer for Ready Player One?  I just saw it last week when my husband and I went to the theatre to see Star Wars.

In just two minutes, the trailer covers how many teens feel, why they game so much, and how gaming fills a deep human need for connection.

“I’m sitting here in my tiny corner of nowhere.”

“There’s nowhere left to go except the Oasis”

“It’s the only place that it feels like I mean anything.”

“Like many of you, I came here to escape, but I found something bigger than just myself”

The main character in Ready Player One, Wade Watts, is relatable to so many teens because he feels powerless, stuck in his small world, and searching or something more. When we see Wade enter “the oasis” (the virtual world) he enters a world that is more engaging and stimulating than the world he lives in. He feels worthwhile in this world. In the Oasis there is a clearly defined goal with a HUGE reward. Even more than the compelling nature of searching for treasure is the sense of purpose that he gains from connecting with something bigger than himself (the political rebellion). In a few short minutes we can see a worthless small town nobody find purpose, connection, and a compelling future.

This is the trailer I’m talking about

Watch it with your teen! It’s a great conversation starter about how gaming fills our human needs.

Video games are like CANDY, because they’re so wonderful, they can crowd other healthy options. Just like helping little ones not eat candy all day long, it’s up to parents to help teens set healthy boundaries around video games.

Some psychologists are suggesting that 3 hours of gaming or more per day has harmful effects on social interactions. There is also research to suggest that excessive gaming is detrimental to the brain’s health. As a educator and a mom, I know that it doesn’t take 3 hours of gaming a day to start to cause a problem. Whenever gaming crowds out a teen’s homework time, their sleep time, and your teen is a sleep-deprived, moody, anxious, and going to school without completing their homework, those are CLEAR signs that your teen needs help to set boundaries with their gaming.

When video games start to crowd out other activities in a teen’s life, like spending time in person with friends, physical activity, school work, contributing to household chores, sleep, or personal hygiene, they have become a problem!

In the last week I connected with Elaine Uskoski, a mom of two young men, who told me the horrific story of her youngest son who went off to college and instead of attending class, shut himself up in his dorm room for 2 months playing video games. When she finally cut through all of the lies he was telling her (and that she was telling herself) she met him in person, and saw that he was a rack of bones. Not eating. Not showering. Only gaming. Who knows what would have happened if this mother hadn’t FINALLY listened to her intuition and stepped in. For more details, you can read Elaine’s book, Seeing Through The Cracks.

I don’t want this nightmare to be your story. If you have concerns about how your teen’s video gaming is impacting the other areas of their life, please reach out.

Book a complimentary 30 minute coaching session with me TODAY.

Elaine told her son,  “You can hate me for the rest of your life, but I’m going to SAVE your life”.

And she did. But she didn’t do it alone. Elaine reached out wherever she could for the support she needed.

End this now.  You could be saving your teen’s life.

I’ve created some extra time in my calendar this week to offer a FREE 30 minute coaching call for YOU.

BOOK NOW to grab your spot.

You’re not alone.

Deanne

P.S. Elaine told me that not only was her son lying to her about his gaming, but that she had been lying to herself. She had been downplaying the severity of what she was seeing, she had been trying to give her son his independence as a college student. But deep inside her, she knew there was a problem. She made her decision to take action, now it’s time for you to make yours…from your deepest place of strength. I can help. Book your call now

How do you want to show up as a parent in 2018?

I’m just about to sit down with a cup of coffee and a notepad and do some “visioning” around my heart’s desires for 2018.

I know that I want to connect deeper with my kids as they grow another year older, connect with my husband (who, bless his heart, is doing the dishes from last night’s party as we speak!) and connect with my own inner light.

I’ve use a specific process for my “visioning” time for the past few years, and  and it has TRANSFORMED my life. When I invest just a little bit of time into acknowledging all I’ve become as a parent, and centering myself in how I want to show up in the world in the next year, my relationships are deeper, and my life is richer.

I want that for you, too!

That’s why, for the FIRST TIME EVER, I’m opening up this powerful “visioning” process to EVERYONE in my community.

Together, we’ll tap into the wisdom that you’ve gained over the past year, and we’ll align your “Inner Compass” (what you check in with every time you need to make a judgement call- which is ALL THE TIME when you’re raising kids!!).

Here’s the truth: Only YOU know the year you just had with your kids. Last year’s experiences hold incredible wisdom for you if only you pause and reflect.  This is the time to gather all that we know to me true about our kids, ourselves, our world, and align our “inner compass”, our parenting wisdom, to THIS season in our lives.

As parents, we really measure time by how our children are growing and the stages they pass through; their first year of high school, their last year of living at home, the last “family holiday” when everyone is still living under the same roof.

We often get so focused on our kids’ milestones that we forget to PAUSE and reflect on our own parenting milestones. The first time we watch them drive off on a vehicle alone. The first time they break their curfew and we’re waiting up, sick with worry. Each time we reach one of these milestones, it feels like a stretch, and we’re constantly checking in with our inner compass, our best judgement, all that we know about our teen and the world we live in, to make a wise decision about what’s best for our teen. We know that we need to let our teen become more independent, but we always wonder if they can handle it. It’s the gradual letting go that is so critical for our relationship with our teens, and yet no-one is giving us a pat on the back or a gold start for these silent milestones.

Until now.. It’s time to acknowledge our efforts, our heartache, our restraint when we wanted to hold our kids in our arms to keep them safe. Only YOU know the year you’ve had with your teen.

This is your invitation to join me for an incredible event where you’ll turn this year’s  parenting experiences into WISDOM, it’s called your Inner Compass Alignment.

I’m leading a courageous group of parents who are willing to press PAUSE on the busyness so that you can reflect on the year you’ve had, and set a powerful intention for how you want to parent in 2018.

This is your opportunity to re-calculate, to re-adjust, to re-align with who you are, and how you relate to your teen THIS year.

Join me for this Inner Compass Alignment, and start 2018 strong! Here’s what you’ll discover during the event:

  • Acknowledge all you’ve been and become as a parent this year
  • Access the wisdom you’ve gained from 2017 so you don’t have to re-learn any of those lessons
  • Chart your course for connecting with your teen in a new way!

You’ll walk away from this experience feeling centered, clear, wise, and inspired to connect with your teen!

CLICK HERE to access the full invitation!

I can’t wait to see what 2018 holds for you and your family!

Deanne

P.S. Please share this invitation with your parent friends, or your partner. Together we’re building a community of courageous parents who are leaning into growing with their kids through the messiness of the teen years!

 

Mom, I have TOO MUCH WORK to take a holiday!

I was talking to a Mom of two teen girls the other day, and she confessed that she was DREADING the holiday trip she had planned. It was supposed to be a great getaway for her and her husband and the kids, but now she realises that this is a HORRIBLE time of year for her kids because of their school work. Over the break they have projects to complete, and finals to write just a week after they get back home.
Are you in this situation?
Here’s the reality:
Everyone needs a break! We all need to learn how to switch gears so that we can rest and relax! This might seem like a luxury, but switching to low gear and learning to rest and relax is critical to our long-term health! 
We need to set our teens up for success, so that when they’re adults, they know how  to set aside their  work at the end of the day. As adults, we have to learn how to set aside our work so that we can go on a holiday (even when the day-to-day operations of our job might still be going on without us!)
It takes SKILL to set aside our work, and TRUST that we’ll be able to cope when we get back to it again!
Here’s a 4 point plan to setting aside the work to that you and your teens can RELAX, and then come back to your work and school life feeling refreshed!
  1. Make a plan: Estimate the time it will take to complete the work (the project, the studying, whatever it is). Schedule in the time BEFORE your holiday, or AFTER your holiday. Get creative with your planning! You may have to give up watching t.v. for two days, or skip a pre-trip holiday party, but when you can prioritise your work AND your holiday time, all the “extras” really come into focus.
  2. Put the work away- physically! Get a large plastic bin, or your backpack, and physically pack away the textbooks, the binders, etc. Put a copy of your post-holiday work schedule on the top. Put a “Do not open until…” sign on it. This might sound silly, but the physical putting away can be a really great way of creating a concrete boundary on your work.
  3. Visualise: As you travel to your destination, whether by car or plane, imagine the thoughts of your work as string that physically connect you to it. Imagine your thoughts of work as string connecting you to the bin of work, and watch them stretch the further you travel. When you’re ready, imagine yourself cutting the strings of thoughts of your work, and with each snip of the strings, allow your body to release the tension of the thought. By the time you reach your destination, allow your body and mind to be in relaxation (or excitement, whatever is restorative to you!)
  4. Follow the plan! When you get home, unpack the box, and follow through with your plan! There’s no better way of developing your self-trust by creating a plan for yourself and following through!
Teens are following OUR lead. If we’re setting aside the work, putting boundaries on when and where we’re checking our e-mails, and committing to our self-care, our teens will believe us when we tell them that resting and relaxing are important!
Wishing you a restorative holiday season to set you up for success in 2018!

It is better to give to that receive…OR IS IT?

When we teach our teens that it’s better to GIVE….then how are they supposed to handle all of what they’re given?
We need to teach our teens how to GIVE and how to RECEIVE.
I’d like to take the wise wisdom of Christine Arylo, who says “It’s better to give AND receive”.
Teens often have a bad reputation of being entitled, self-centered and want-want-wanting!
The truth is, teens (like all people) come in ALL VARIETIES! There are advantages and disadvantages to being a GIVER. There are advantages and disadvantages to being a RECEIVER.
No matter what kind of teen you’re working with…there IS a way to engage with your teen in a positive way, so that they can learn the art of being able to both give and receive in life.
 
GIVERS: Some teens are incredibly passionate about serving others. They are altruistic and compassionate, and they put all of their energy into making the world a better place! These teens volunteer in their community, and they are lit up by the difference they are making! As parents of givers, we encourage and applaud their efforts. They are amazing kids! Sometimes, though, the givers struggle to take care of themselves. They’re so busy taking care of others that they can neglect their own sleep, nutrition, and ability to have fun (which is SO restorative!). Givers often feel guilty for having all they need, and for having a good time. As parents, we need to applaud their self-care efforts; when they are resting, when they are laughing with friends, when they are taking time for renewal, we need to congratulate them for knowing that when they’re whole and healthy, they are better able to jump back in to serving others.
RECEIVERS: Some teens appear so SELF-CENTERED! They’re entitled, and want-want-want. This can be really aggravating because they believe that the entire world (and family budget) should revolve around them and their needs. Sometimes this intense wanting pushes our buttons because the wanting isn’t connected to understanding how to GET what they want. Another reason why our teen’s wanting gets aggravating is because we’ve suffered so much from wanting and NOT receiving, that we’ve given up on our own desires in life. Wanting can be a great indication of clarity in life, and can create a compelling future (think of the kid who wants a car and does EVERYTHING in their power to fund that vision)!
As parents, we can encourage these teens to keep wanting, AND to figure out a plan of how to GET what they want (like getting a job, setting up a savings plan, thinking long-term, etc.).
As parents, we can also help these teens to be grateful for what they have, and think of the needs of others.
Often these teens need an experience of walking in someone else’s shoes, or serving others  (more than just one time) to really understand that it’s important to give when you have so much.
Whether you have giver, receiver, or both, it’s important to recognise that there are gifts in every way of being, and there are opportunities for US as parents to really lean in to those places where our teens “push our buttons” as areas to commit to learning about ourselves and growing in wisdom alongside our teens.

EASY strategies for RESILIENCE that no-one is talking about!

So many parents I’ve talked to are wondering what the BEST approach is to supporting their teens to be able to handle what life throws at them (and, honestly, how to handle the demands of living with the emotional ups and downs of a teen).

There are a number of EASY strategies that NO-ONE is talking about that are PROVEN to develop resilience in teens! (but I’m about the let these incredible SECRETS out!)

I’m wondering,

Is raising a RESILIENT teen one of your goals as a parent?

Is helping your teen to discover their PURPOSE important to you?

Are you always on the lookout for strategies that WORK with teens?

If you said YES to any of these questions, then please keep reading!

Parents today are more stressed, overwhelmed, overworked than ever before (and so are our teens!). Trial and error in parenting can be exhausting! We need EVERY SHORTCUT that we can get!

That’s why I’m so excited to share with you The Top 5 Secrets to Raising Resilient and Purpose-driven Teens

In this 3 part video series, you’ll learn

  • How to help your teen overcome the inevitable difficulties in life
  • The missing ingredient in most goal-setting programs
  • How to help your teen connect with a sense of purpose using the “video game method”
  • How to lower the risk of your teen making BIG mistakes
  • How to stay connected with your teen TODAY so that you’ll be friends when they are an adult

CLICK HERE to grab your seat, and you’ll have INSTANT ACCESS to the first video!

Enjoy!

Deanne

P.S. The KEY to resilience, is in dipping into the resources that are available, and learning what WORKS! Don’t miss out on this opportunity to learn these under-used strategies for raising resilient and purpose-driven teens! CLICK HERE to grab instant access to this video series!

What every teen WANTS this holiday season

Here’s the secret….every teen WANTS the satisfaction of knowing what they want, and then getting it!

In fact, we ALL want over the holidays are good feels! We want the feeling of certainty of knowing what will light us up,  the variety and excitement of something NEW, and the certainty of feeling SATISFIED with what we get!

Here’s  what’s difficult….teens are even more susceptible than adults to the negative emotions that come up during the holiday season:

  • Not knowing what they want
  • Wanting something that they believe they can’t have
  • Wanting something they they KNOW they won’t get
  • Feeling entitled to something and having to settle for something less
  • Being completely dis-satisfied with what they get because it doesn’t meet their expectations

Wanting is hard because it can lead to disappointment and rejection. Sometimes, it’s easier to not want anything. BUT, if we lose touch with what we WANT, then we miss out on the very feeling that can compel us to action. WANTING can be extremely motivating!

Settle in to WANTING something BIG!

Want an extraordinary life!

Want to feel connected to something bigger than yourself!

Want to know how to become your own best friend!

Want to know yourself a bit more deeply!

When we focus on expanding our view from the material wants, and really allow ourselves to set our vision on something greater, then we can follow the clues laying all around us to lead us in the right direction!

Not sure how to expand your view? CLICK HERE to grab a free 30 minute call with me, and we’ll get there together!

 

TEEN gift-giving guide 2017

Are you wondering what to give your teen for the holidays?
If you haven’t already, today is a great day to…

Ask your teen!

If you get the old “I dunno”…. then you’re faced with a few decisions:
  1. TEEN RESEARCH: Ask your teen to make a list of gifts that they’d like for $500 or less, $100 or less, $50 or less,$20 or less, and $5 or less.This will give you a sense of what they’re interested in, and give YOU some options to work with within your budget (and to share with the Grandparents). Give your teen a deadline to get you their list.
  2. Focus on FEELINGS: Start a new conversation about how your teen would like to FEEL over the holidays…brainstorm together the activities that would help them to feel that way….you might discover the need for some new equipment (a snowboard or skates for winter sports) or an activity (a hot air balloon ride, a concert) that would make a great gift, AND give your teen an activity to look forward to, rather than more “stuff”.
  3. RANKING: Create a list of gifts that you think your teen would like, and have them rank their top 3 choices.
  4. GIFT CARDS: This is the ULTIMATE personalised gift, because your teen can choose what they want (within your budget, at a store they love). ITunes, movie theatres, book stores, electronics stores. Many shops also have electronic gift cards or store credit. Some shopping malls even sell gift cards that are valid throughout the entire mall.
  5. The “I owe U”:  Does your teen want to go somewhere over spring break? Is your teen going away to college next year and already wondering how they’ll get home for Christmas? Write your teen an “I Owe U”for future travel, like “I owe U one airfare home next Christmas”. Or “I owe you a zip line tour on our next trip to Costa Rica”. Make sure you create a reminder for yourself about what you’ve promised.
Part of the struggle of holiday shopping for teens is that there are so many EMOTIONS around gift giving and receiving! Stay tuned next week for more about TEEN WANTING and why our teen’s wants pushes our buttons!
Take a deep breath! We’ll get through this together 🙂
Take good care of yourself this holiday season! When emotions are running high, that’s a great signal that a bubble bath, a hot cup of tea, and an early bedtime (FOR YOU!)  are in order. At the end of the day, your teen needs YOU at your best to help them navigate all of these emotions!
Be well!
Deanne

Wholehearted Parenting

The other day a good friend of mine told me this;

“Deanne, everyone thinks we’re the perfect family and that our teens are so amazing. But the truth is, it is SO hard to raise teenagers!  Just the other night, our oldest son was out driving around the next town in the middle of the night, when he was supposed to be home looking after his younger brother… We’re far from perfect”

Can you relate?

Parenting teens is tough, it always has been, but in today’s fast-paced world driven by IMAGE, we’re constantly comparing how everyone else’s life LOOKS compared to how our life FEELS.

As parents, we’ve worked hard to get an education, a career, a home, a partner, have children…and just when we feel like we’ve figured out how to parent our kids, they go sideways.

They’re driving around town in the middle of the night.

They’re failing a class.

They’re getting fired from their part time job.

They’re totaling the family car with 4 of their friends inside.

Not to mention the terrifying times when we’re worried about their mental health.

When we feel on top of our game in so many aspects of our adult life, it’s hard to be right back in the vulnerable, confusing, overwhelming messiness of figuring out life with a teenager.

That’s why I’ve  been capturing on camera my conversations with parents who are willing to share what parenting in real life looks like (and how it feels). I’ve put these conversations together into an incredible FREE global virtual event, so that YOU know that whatever you’re going through with your teen,

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

We’re creating a global movement of parents who are committed to LEANING IN to the messiness of raising teens, and telling the TRUTH about how that really looks and feels. This event is called,

Wholehearted Parenting: Supporting resilient, confident and purpose-driven teens

I’ve interviewed over 21 thought leaders (many of whom are parents, but not all) to share their very best practices and insights so that you have the inner strength to work through your fears, lead your teen from the HEART, and learn to trust yourself as a parent. 

CLICK HERE FOR FREE ACCESS

Through this interview series you’ll discover

  • How to be responsive to your teen, not reactive
  • How to trust your intuition about how to bestparent your teen (despite what all your friends and family are telling you)
  • How to powerfully connect with your teen even when they’re pushing you away
  • How to see the conflict you have with your teen as an opportunity for growth (theirs AND yours)
  • How to step back so your child can solve their own problems
  • How to reinvent your relationship with your teen as they grow into adults

<<<CLICK HERE>>>  to reserve your FREE all-access pass!

This movement has the capacity to release an entire generation from comparison, isolation, and a fear of failure and give rise to a new generation of parents and teens who are willing to be lead with courage and cultivate resilience, creativity, and purpose.

Wouldn’t it me amazing to be part of a global movement of parents who are committed to leading with the heart?

The huge shift is happening. Let’s inspire wholehearted living by parenting our teens that way.

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If you’re ready for a real change, I invite you and any of the parents in your life to join us for Wholehearted Parenting.

With gratitude,
Deanne

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